ON BLAMING AND BIASES
by Lemuel Niere
A man once believed that he was dead. His concerned wife brought him to the doctor. The psychiatrist had difficulty persuading him that he was not dead. No argument seemed to convince him. The doctor finally thought of an idea. He asked the man if he believed that dead men don’t bleed.
“Yes,” he replied. Then the doctor took the man’s arm and injected him to draw blood. When the man saw blood spirting into the syringe, he gasped, “My, dead men do bleed!”
Our biases may not send us to the psychiatrist’s couch, but they elbow their way into relationships giving us the occasional ouch!
Experiments done in the field of social psychology disclose a self-serving bias in the way we perceive events and others as they relate to us. For example, “when compared with ourselves, most of us see our friends, neighbors, coworkers, and schoolmates in a sorry situation. They are weaker ethically, more intolerant, and less intelligent. We even think our peers are likely to die sooner than we are.”
We take credit for any positive outcome, but blame failure on outside factors. The we win a word game like Scrabble, for example, it is because of our verbal dexterity. When we lose, it is because “who could get anywhere with a q but no u? In a tennis match, winners usually take personal credit for the victory but blame their partners when they lose. When we get a low grade on an exam, we blame the test or the teacher.
Rationalizations and excuses are as ubiquitous as the air we breathe. From the highest office of the land to the lowliest abode, people take credit for any positive outcome, but blame failure on the weather, our partner, or the State representative—following a tradition established by Adam and Eve when they first played the blame game.
Self-serving biases show up in our preferences, differences, prejudices, partiality, our leanings and choices. Truth is, the gamut of our perceptions and perspectives is contaminated by human pride. As William Saroyan put it: “Every man is a good man in a bad world—as he himself knows.” A person’s world crumbles and is in complete disarray, but still manages to keep his pride intact.
How can one keep a balanced, objective mind? What we need is to be honest with ourselves and “to walk humbly before God” (Micah 6:8). C. S. Lewis said that to acquire humility, the first step is to realize that one is proud.
Here’s practical advice from Lee Silver: “To keep a true perspective of yourself, you should have a dog that worships you and a cat that will ignore you
